Conceiving and giving birth to children is an important activity placed on the marriage institution by society and individuals. For this reason, couples become overly perturbed when years have eaten deep into their marriage with no child to show for it even as they are labelled infertile.
And in addition to the trauma, friends and family proffer solutions, advice and tips which may not totally be correct, thereby further aggravating the couple. It is therefore better to discover myths associated with fertility and conceiving so you can be better informed and save yourself fruitless efforts.
Myth 1: GETTING PREGNANT IS EASY
Reality — not exactly. There are days in a woman’s cycle when she is fertile and can conceive and days when she’s not. It is therefore hard or nearly impossible for her to conceive on days when she is not ovulating, so don’t believe that having sex anytime in the month is enough to get a woman pregnant. It can be planned to target fertile days, but I’m sure you already know that.
Myth 2: SPERM LIVE FOR ONLY A FEW HOURS
Reality — The lifespan of sperm differs with every man. But scientifically, sperm are proven to last longer than just some few hours. Sperm can last even up to 5 days according to webmd
Myth 3: WITHOUT ORGASM THERE IS NO CONCEPTION
Reality — This is not true. Although orgasm helps to make sex more pleasurable and also help to contract the uterus, it doesn’t mean conception won’t occur if neither of the partner orgasm.
Myth 4: SWALLOWING SEMEN WILL MAKE YOU MORE FERTILE
Reality — No scientific studies have proven it so far. While swallowing semen has its quaint benefits, it doesn’t make you anymore fertile than you already are. So don’t gulp down semen if you have no reflex for that.
Myth 5: BREASTFEEDING CAN ALSO SERVE AS BIRTH CONTROL
Reality — breast feeding as a means of birth control IS not reliable. Forget the fact that you’re not presently menstruating because this doesn’t work for all women. Many women who are still breastfeeding have conceive while their baby are still months old. It is therefore better to be safe than sorry, using a condom during this period is advised.
Myth 6: RAISING YOUR LEGS HIGH FOR 20 MINUTES AFTER HAVING SEX WILL HELP YOU GET PREGNANT
Reality — Not true. Practicing such exercise can be stressful and numb out the pleasurable feeling of the sex you just had. There is no scientific backing to that, but common sense should tell you that resting for a little while after sex helps your body stabilize and relax.
Myth 7: MISSIONARY STYLE IS THE ONLY WAY TO CONCEIVE
Reality– the style does not really matter, what matters is deep penetration and healthiness of both partners. Whatever style rocks your boat is fine as long as it helps you both climax. It is only a misconception you shouldn’t believe.
Myth 8: YOU MUST HAVE SEX EVERY DAY TO CONCEIVE
Reality– Only if you are always in the mood and the stress of the day does not get to the both of you. If not, having sex everyday can be, let’s face it, boring. Thrice a week is good especially if you’re trying to conceive so that you may not miss the days when you’re ovulating.
Myth 9: HAVING GIVEN BIRTH BEFORE IS A GUARANTEE THAT I CAN EASILY CONCEIVE AGAIN
Reality– That is not a total guarantee. Fertility issues can still arise even after giving birth to the first child, especially when the year gap is extensive. Other factors such as age, diet, drinking habits, lack of exercise and increased stress can lead to difficulties in getting pregnant again.
Myth 10: INFERTILITY IS ONLY A WOMAN’S PROBLEM
Reality– this is a total lie borne out of ignorance, societal and cultural prejudices. When there’s infertility issue in a marriage, both partners owe it to each other to get tested and checked. Infertility issues is as much a man’s problem as it is a woman’s. Don’t let anyone deceive you into solely taking the blame.
Conclusion: This tips are not meant to scare, rather to educate. Don’t live in ignorance, get informed today.